I was given an independent task in my office and I gave my 100% to it, only to know that it’s a failure- the day before the launch. So embarrassing right? Yes, it was. It wasn’t my mistake but I failed. What’s more serious is the impact of my failure in my mind. The kind of thoughts that’s running in my mind right now is something I am concerned about as they are weird and convincing that I am the biggest fool on earth, I am a looser, I am incapable of doing anything. The solution that easily pops up in my mind is to run away from this environment, to run away to a distant place where no one can see me especially the eyes that saw my failure. I am sure that I am not the only one who gets engulfed in such extreme thoughts in times of a failure.
Thoughts are thoughts. The thoughts that comes up at this point of time is not true and the solution our mind suggests at this moment is dangerous. Practically, it’s not possible to run away from situation or people. So, I chose not to get dejected any more and as a result, I compiled this list of solutions that’ll help me and anyone who is facing similar failures in their life to bounce back with a smile.
- Accept your failure
There is nothing harder than this but it takes a lot of courage to accept failure. Remember, only when you accept the reality, you can think about what next. No one ever tasted success without facing failure. Not even the great heroes in the bible escaped failure.
“for though the righteous fall seven times, they rise again,..” -Proverbs 24:16
- Learn from your mistakes
It takes time to come out of overflowing negative thoughts. But we have to come out of it to look back, to see what actually went wrong. It might be an attitude issue- Overconfidence, pride, negligence or strategy issue, be it anything. It is important to learn from our mistakes, most importantly to avoid repeating these mistakes in the future.I have a habit of writing journal, I record all the interesting, irritating, crazy, funny, happy, sad, good and bad moments of my life in it. When I page through these journals a few days or a few years later, It simply reminds me of the problems I faced and how I dealt with it over the time. As the psalmist says,
“My punishment was good for me, because it made me learn your commands.” -Psalms 119:71
- Maintain a gratitude journal, most importantly update it
Remember this song?
When upon life’s billows you are tempest-tossed,
When you are discouraged, thinking all is lost,
Count your many blessings, name them one by one,
And it will surprise you what the Lord has done.
It is good to jot down the blessings we received in our lives and incidents when God rescued us, as this helps us to praise God in times of misery and trust in him.
“Bless the Lord, O my soul, and forget not all his benefits” -psalms 103:2
- Where have you kept your trust?
“My flesh and my heart may fail, but God is the strength of my heart and my portion forever.” -Psalms 73:26
In Matthew 7:24-27 Jesus Christ tells us a parable about two builders, one built the house on rock and the other built his house on sand.
Where have you kept your trust? Is it on God or on situations, people and your effort?
“The LORD is my rock, my fortress and my deliverer; my God is my rock, in whom I take refuge, my shield and the horn of my salvation, my stronghold.” -Psalms 18:2
- There is a reason we all have to fail
Every time the people of Israel turned away from God, he punished them. They lost in their battles. But once they confessed their sins to God, he lifted them up in front of their enemies and gave them victory.
“Sometimes it takes a painful experience to make us change our ways.” -Proverbs 20:30
- Look ahead, Move on
You have failed doesn’t mean you have to dwell in your failure.
“Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past” -Isaiah 43:18
If you have failed doesn’t mean God gave up on you.
“He strengthens those who are weak and tired.
Even those who are young grow weak;
young people can fall exhausted.
But those who trust in the Lord for help
will find their strength renewed.
They will rise on wings like eagles;
they will run and not get weary;
they will walk and not grow weak.” -Isaiah 40:29-31
If you have failed doesn’t mean you should stop trying.
“For when I am weak, then I am strong.” -2 Corinthians 12:10
“I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.” -Philippians 4:13